berdirinya saya disini kerana tiada kerusi untuk saya duduk . dengan jujurnya saya ingin mengatakan bahawa saya mengupdate blog pada malam yg indah lagi dingin ini adalah kerana permintaan . ajet ajet retis lak kan -_- jokejoke . ada org kata blog saya dah lama tak diupdate . so , maka setiap kali apabila org bertanya bila nak update blog and bla bla , time tu idea tetiba datang o_O . dah banyak dah entry saya diupdate kerana org bertanya . mungkin depa saja nak baca bagi hilang boring . walaupun saya tau blog saya tak best mana pun >.< membe membe baik dan insan insan tersayang jea yg rajin duk baca . tengs a lot ! :)
so guys , here we are . enjoy ! :)
every relationship has a cycle . in the beginning , you fall in love with your balak/marka/awek/pakwe/boipren/girlpren . you anticipate their calls , want their touch , and like their idiosyncrasies . falling in love was not hard . in fact , it was completely natural and spontaneous experience . you did not have to anything . thats why its called "falling" in love .
people in love sometimes say , "i was swept of my feet" . picture the expression . its implies that you were just standing there without doing nothing and then something happened to you . falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience . but after a few months or years of being together , the euphoria of love fades . its a natural cycle of every relationship :)
slowly but surely , phone calls become a bother , touch is not always welcome , and your spouse's idiosyncrasies , instead of being cute , drive you nuts . the symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship . you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage .
at this point , you or your partner might start asking , "am i with the right person ?" . and as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had , you may begin to desire that experience with someone else . this is when relationships breakdown :') the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person . its learning to love the person you found !
Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience . you have to work on it day in and day out . its take time , effort and energy . and most importantly , it demands wisdom . you have to know what to do to make it work . make no mistake about it .
love is not a mystery . there a specific things you can do . Just as there are pyhsical laws of the universe . there are also laws for relationships . if you know how to apply these laws , the results are predictable . love is therefore a "decision" . not just a feeling .
Allah determines who walks into your life . it is up to you to decide who you let walk away . who you let stay . and who you refuse to let go .
phewww ~ chow ~